After any difficult transition, the reward is a new beginning. However it doesn’t just happen. It begins with a decision. This is a pivotal point. Coming to the point of decision is about becoming more aware that you have a choice. As the poet, Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Once you make a decision, the world conspires to make it happen.”
Do you want to feel stuck in your sadness, anxiety, and despair or do you want to free yourself and wake up? Your decision is real. It’s not just a wish, which is something that would be nice if all the stars aligned and it happened, or something hoped for. A decision is a firm state of resolve that closes the door marked “What am I going to do?” and opens a new door marked “How am I going to do it?”
By deciding, you are embracing your power to make your own way, to reclaim your life. This is a confidence builder. There is power in making this decision. By creating this dynamic in your life, you are starting an upward cycle of confident, self-owning behaviors.
You don’t have to waste years getting over the bad things that happen in your life. It’s important to be present with your pain and emotions initially, but so many people get stuck in the mud of resentment, depression, and disappointment. They will only hold you back. Don’t blame yourself; don’t blame others. Take the power back by saying to yourself: I can’t help what happened to me, but I can change how I react to what happened to me.
Revisit day twelve and thirteen of the holiday challenge about forgiveness. Do you still need to forgive someone else or yourself?
What Do You Want To Create?
Creation is energizing because it is positive and expansive. What do you want to create for yourself moving forward? Now is the time to be intentional. Envision yourself in the future looking back on your life. What does a life well lived look like in terms of family, career, community, and spirituality?
Consider what makes you unique. Once you recognize what makes you unique and valuable, you can share your gift with others.
Realize that this is your one precious life. Don’t waste another moment wishing for things to be different. Accept life; accept reality as it is.
How can you commit to yourself to have the best life you can possibly have?