After any life transition such as divorce or death of a loved one, we feel vulnerable. It may be more difficult than ever to put aside our need to know – our need for certainty. Trust can be difficult to rebuild – with ourselves and with others. Especially after a divorce, we may question our judgment, our ability to make sound decisions.
So how can you let go of your fear of uncertainty and begin to believe in yourself again? Faith.
Brene Brown in her book, The Gifts of Imperfection, defines faith as: “..a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty.”
Trust Your Inner Guides
We all have inner guides, such as intuition and core values that uniquely define who we are and how we need to live. Sometimes we drown them out in an effort to pursue what we think we want. Personal power lies in our ability to identify and listen to our inner guides. These guides will reveal new possibilities and pathways.
As humans have evolved, we have tended to rely more and more on analytical thought and logic, and less on instinct. It makes sense that as our physical worlds have become safer, the part of our brain that instinctually indicates danger or safety is not triggered very often. When it is, we tend to ignore it in favor of gathering more data.
However, if we made decisions and lived our lives solely in response to data, many of us would have unsatisfying lives. We wouldn’t take risks.
When I switched careers, I had no data to support the move. What I did have was a keen awareness of my values—what was important to me and what a life lived in congruence with these values would look like. Based on this vision of a fulfilling life, I put all my energy into the new direction. I ignored the inner critic that said, “You are irresponsible.” I ignored the skeptic that questioned, “What if you fail? You aren’t 21 anymore!”
By putting energy into my vision, the universe met me halfway, and after eight months, I had a corporate coaching contract and some wonderful business partners with whom to work.
You Know More Than You Think You Do
You have what you need to get to the other side of your transition. Trust the process. It is a predictable cycle—new beginnings are born of endings. Slow down and be open to what appears in your life. Be still and listen to your inner voice. It will guide you. You’ve got this.
How can you use your transition as an opportunity to realign your life with your values?