If you are experiencing any type of grief due to events in your life, you may feel low-energy. The holiday season may fill you with feelings of stress and overwhelm. How can you re-fill your tank?
There are 4 areas to consider in managing your energy- physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
Sleep and movement are critical to a sense of well-being. When you are anxious or in grief, sleep can be elusive and exercise may get dropped in favor of collapsing on the couch. Even if you don’t feel like it, doing small things such as going for a walk, or playing with the dog will boost your energy level and help get your emotions back on track by releasing chemicals in your brain that promote a sense of well-being and reduce stress.
What is your belief about what has happened in your life? Are you accepting life circumstances or spending energy resisting them? Stress is caused by resisting what is. Resistance sounds like this.
“I shouldn’t have to struggle.”
“My partner shouldn’t have left.”
“My boss shouldn’t have fired me.”
Removing the word should removes judgment about the situation, leaving only the situation to deal with. Once resistance is cleared, there is energy available to engage what is present in your life, and move forward.
Stressful thoughts trigger stressful emotions. We can’t choose which feelings come to us. They’re automatic. They are an immediate reaction to the situation we are experiencing. And many times they are triggered from feelings that haven’t been dealt with in the past. Trying to stuff your emotions in order to avoid their unpleasant intensity will sap your energy and is toxic. It is important to realize that you have emotions, you aren’t your emotions.
Dealing with your emotions by expressing them will give you the energy you need to move forward. As you acknowledge them, try and correctly identify them.
For example, if you feel angry, are you really afraid? If you feel depressed, are you really angry?
What gives you meaning and purpose? Knowing this will sustain you through some very hard times of grief. If you have wanted to reconnect to your faith, this is the time to do it. If walks in nature nourish your soul, then program time to do that. Reading about others’ spiritual paths can also be inspiring.
As the four areas of energy are integrated, you will discover that nourishing one area also feeds the others. Notice the next time you go for a walk what happens. Does your perspective about your situation shift? How does that change the way you feel about it? What possibilities emerge that have meaning for you?